This generally turned into something exciting that stimulated our own intimacy. In the past, particularly at the beginning of our relationship, I found it thrilling when he described his desire for, say, a particularly sexy waitress. Part of what makes our sex life so great is that we’re open with one another about our attractions not only to each other, but to other people. We’ve been together for about a year and have a great sexual connection. I am a queer woman in my early 30s who is in a relationship with a straight man. Have a question? Send it to Stoya and Rich here. We dove into the How to Do It archives to share a selection of classic letters with our readers. Our advice columnists have heard it all over the years.
